pbb: it is important to find someone who loves you more than you love him.
nono: why leh?
pbb: cos when you know he loves you so much, you would love him back too :)
What I am trying to say is that. Standing on a women's point of view, we have to protect ourselves. Our hearts are more brittle and our tears flow a lot faster and heavier. When the man we are with love us lesser, we are on the losing end and whatever happens in the relationship we take it much harder. It's different from men. You do not see men sobbing and screaming as much as women do.
I know love should be selfless right?
I am glad I have found my one. It took me 3 years into my relationship with him to know that he really loves me ALOT. Despite me gaining 10 kg, he has never utter a single word and still tells me I am the prettiest of all. Now when we fight, it is almost a 10 min affair and then we are lovey dovey all over again. I respect his work and who he is. He has shown me the stability a man can be in taking care of me and I am appreciative of that.
During my lowest times, he has stood by me and gave me great comfort. One time he told me seeing me so sad he is really sad too and his heart breaks when I am like that. That sentence alone gave me strength to fight the hurricane in my path. (ok, I have tears in my eyes now.)
Knowing how much he loves me only make me want to make him even happier than ever by doing little things. Ironing his shirts, helping him plan what to pack for his overseas assignments and going to the bridal studio myself vountarily without him because I know man are just not interested in the details of the dress and would rather watch TV.
I am sure that even if I am struck down with a illness so serious that I cannot bear children or be terminally ill, he will still stick to me. His steadfast love for me is so strong that I know I will never find another man to love me this much (except you, dad.).
It wasn't easy in the beginning years o our courtship. Endless fights and tears. Misunderstanding and mistrust. Many heartsbreaks and finally one day, I decided enough was enough. He is a man of few words when it comes to relationship, he did not ask me to stay which I secretly wanted.
After some time, I called him up and said nothing but cry on the phone. He asked me where I was and came over to pick me up to send me to my next destination. We did not talk much on the in the car. But somehow we both knew everything was going to be alright.
Now? married liao lor :)
I guess what I am trying to babble here is that if knowing how long and far he would go through with me, it makes me want to be there for him as well. And he has shown me how selfless love has make me want to even treasure him.
Incoherently thoughts for a Sunday!